Can I spank my HoH?

I write this post out of lonliness, out of hurt. Can I spank my HoH? Can I have just one chance to spank HIM instead of him spank me. One freebie, thats all I ask. Bit ohhh, I would make it good.
Right now it is New Years Eve and I am all alone. We didnt make major plans because we have the baby and I really hate leaving her with other people. So I assumed we would just have a quiet night in, maybe watch some movies, have a drink, kiss at midnight. But nope. That will not be happening. 
His sisters who are in their teens wanted to go to some new years get to gether thingy that is directeted towards kids. They needed an adult to take him and J being the nice big brother that he is volunteered. Quickly too. Didnt ask if I was okay with it, nothing- He should be spanked for that.
He will probally end up having a drink; hmm I cant drink without him there.. spanking ofense number 2 your honor. 
Lets see, what can else can we find? Oh he will still be gone at midnight, and although we didnt make plans I was looking forward to a newyears kiss. Spankable. If the baby wakes up, I will have to deal with it, alone. Spankable aswell. 
Okayokay maybe im just going on a rant now, but im MAD. And watch, *I* will end up being spanked. Not him. I will get spanked because I am mad and when Im mad it leads to me doing spankable offenses. ... and you know what? I'm okay with this. Well not being spanked. But I will submit. I am okay with this arrangement we have set up. I am okay with him having the power. I trust him, that when he makes a mistake (like he did) that he will fix it, (like i know he will)
I trust him, with me. We all make mistakes, and this time he made one. Eventually it will be worked out. Even just writing this post has made me feel better.And I will talk to him about it, maturely, not sassy like. Part of my new years resolution is to have less sass, to think before I talk. I will approach this with respect and we will come out better. 

Thank you everyone who has read this blog this year, and I wish you all the best in 2012. 

Happy new year! 
Melly

Heated Hair Straighteners Can Lead to Heated Bottoms

It was bound to happen. I mean a bad girl can only go so long before trouble catches up with her. And today it caught up with me. I had just gone about a whole week without getting into trouble. My HoH says that he was just being nice because it was Christmas, but I know it's really because I was being good ;)

Anyways, to the part of today where I was spanked. I have a tendency of leaving my hair straightener turned on when I am finished with it. I straighten my hair everyday and I probably leave it on  about once a week (which is lot better than before he took this into his hands, trust me)
I was just running to the store to grab somethings and I ran into the washroom to touch up my hair (I have one of those fancy straighteners  that heats up in under one minute). I honestly had it in mind to shut it off before I left, I did. Buuuut ofcourse I had to leave it on, J had to return (before the "auto shut-off" took into effect), he had to go in the washroom, and he just had to see my straightener turned on and left on the towel bar(ooops)
I returned home and was sooooo happy to see him home sooner than I thought! :D

Me: Babe! I didn't think you were going to be back for another few hours!
J:I ended up leaving little sooner than I thought I would. My mom didn't need me as long as I thought she did (he was out helping his mother)
Me: Thats good! We can spend sometime together! Just you, me and baby!
J: Yes, we can, but first we need to talk about something.

He said it in the way he always does, you know, with the tone that a "talk" means someone is in trouble. My mind started racing, I couldnt think of anything I did recently.

Me: Sure,hon. What do you mean? What do we need to talk about?
J: Well you see, I came home early to an empty house..
Me: Yeah I told you I had to pick somethings up, remember?
J: Yes babe, I know you went shopping, thats not what bothered me.
Me: Umm okay then, so what did then?
J: Well I went into the bathroom and when I went to dry my hands I saw your straightener still turned on, and not only was it still turned on, you left it hung over the towel bar on top of towels.
Me: Oh no! I really meant to shut it off! I just left in a rush, you know?
J: Yes I can understand that, but we have talked about this many times. You have had several warnings. And yes, you have had a major improvement in that area, however I was not impressed when I saw it over the towel.
Me: I am sorry baby. I really am. I just... (I couldnt even think of what to say here)
J:Well I shut it off and I thought  about it. I am going to go put the baby in her crib with some toys and when I am doing that I want you to go lay on the bed for me.
Me: Okay...

So I did as told, and when I got to the rooom I saw that he had pillows in the middle of the bed and my straightner rapped up sitting on the bed too! What the!? I knew to lay over the pillows, so I did. J entered the room and continued to talk. He made sure I knew why I was getting punished and told me that he is proud that I dont do this bad habit that often but he wants to get me to the pount where I never do it (and I think he got me there today!!) he then told me that after he started with his hand, he was going to finish up with my straightener!!!
My stomach knotted more than it was already. He spanked me and the straightener actually hurt ALOT! He didnt even spank that long or hard but that thing has alot of impact (who knew?)
He hugged me after and rubbed my back and told me to meet him and the baby in the living room when I was ready. I layed there for a while and then I got my pants on (somewhere in the spanking he took them off) . I went to the living room and him, the baby, and myself had a wonderful evening!! :) Although my bottom was sore the whole time, but I felt very loved and protected. Even sitting here now like 9 hours later it still burns abit!
I can truthfully say that I think it will be a while untill I leave the house without making sure my straightener is turned off!!
Melly

A Christmas Spanking... well almost.

Hello Everyone :)
I hope everyone is enjoying their holidays as much as me :) It has been go,go,GO busy but it's been really nice none the less. I have just a few minutes to be on here so I thought I would of a funny thing that happened the other night thanks to my HoH.

On Christmas Eve I was hanging out with his sisters having girl time and J had fallen asleep around midnight. Eventually we said our goodnights. I checked on the baby and went to the bedroom to fall asleep myself. I guess I made a bit of noise and J woke up.

J: Oh I guess I fell asleep! I didnt mean to! What time is it?
Me: (looks at cellphone) It's 2:19 babe
J: (Half asleep) Are you SERIOUS!?!? You let me SLEEP past noon!? You made me miss out on Christmas morning!? You let me sleep through our daughter's first Christmas? Melly I would HATE to be you when you get punished for this. I dont know what its going to be, but I can promise it is going to be BAD.
Me:OMG!! You are so funny!! Go back to bed! It's 2:19... AM!! you only slept for 2 hours!
J: Huh?
Me: Yep. As if you ACTUALLY think I would do that to you!! I am waking you up EARLY! You may be the head of this house but *I* have decided that tomorrow you are not sleeping in. (laughs) (I said this jokingly as i know he wouldnt miss it)
J: (laughing) I am sorry honey! I was half asleep! I dont know what I was thinking. And no, you are right, we are both getting our butts out of bed early tomorrow. Come lay down me and we can sleep for a few more hours.
Me: Okay babe :D

I shut off the light, joined my handsome HoH in bed and fell asleep in his arms. We awoke just after 7 and the baby was still asleep. We were doing some last minute things and I brought up the event. And would you like to know something??... HE HAD NO RECOLLECTION OF THIS!!!!!!!!!!!
I still laugh about it :) I have been wanting to tell people but I can only tell so much, I mean I cant tell everyine he was going to SPANK me. So I decided to tell you, my blogger friends. I hope it put a smile on someones face :)
It sure is funny, the things we say in our sleep sometimes. Or how excited a grown man can be over Christmas haha

Melly

From mine to yours...

In just over 48 hours from now Santa will be here for my daughter ;p
But in all seriousness Christmas is just a couple days away so I would like to wish all of my readers happy holidays and best wishes in 2012. I truly hope everyone has awesome holidays in whichever form they choose to spend it!! I know personally I am very excited for my daughters FIRST Christmas (8 and a half months!!) and can not wait to spend some good holiday time with her and her Daddy!! <3 . So with that said I don't know how much I will be on here with the holidays and moving on the second but I will make my appearances and I can reply to comments on my phones web browser.
May you all have happy Holidays !!

x o

PS. My new years resolution for 2012 is to get spanked much less than I did in 2011 ;)

Melly

A Shot is JUST A Shot; BUT A Rule Is A Rule

Me: Babe I know I agreed not to drink without you there but i just had a shot. All of the ladies were having a shot and I didnt want to feel left out. I'm sorry but I'm telling you so its in the open and im not hiding it.

Honey?

J: I was putting the baby to bed. But what? You ARE joking right..

Me: :( Im not. I am sorry.

J: Do NOT have anymore. Enjoy the rest of your night out. It will be the last one in a while (without me anyways)

(that was us texting)

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I already felt really bad. See, I am SUPER light weight. Literally. I have been known to get drunk off one drink. Sad, I know. And not only that, but I am STUPID when I become intoxicated. So a rule that we have in TTWD (a rule that actually i came up with on my own) is that I am not to consume any alcohol without J present, and with out him knowing before that first drop even hits my tongue.
Saturday night I was at a christmas party and drinks came to our table. (Im Canadian BTW, so here I can drink). They were just shooters and everyone got one. Me being responsible would have just not drank it. But I gave in to the heat of the moment without thinking and tossed it back. (It was delicious by the way). A few minutes later guilt set in really bad. I texted J immediately. Yeah, he was not impressed.

When I returned home I found him in the living room watching tv. I approached him, curled up on his lap and asked him how his evening was.
"It was pretty good. Baby went down easy, I finished some work, and I just sat down to watch tv... Oh yeah and I had my significant other who gets drunk really easy and who promised me she wouldn't drink a drop of liquor without me there tell me she did the exact opposite." *raises eyebrow*

I lowered my head. I couldnt even look at him. A shot is a very small amount, yes, but its the fact that I told him I wouldn't do it. "Im sorry" I mumbled.
"You know babe, if we had talked about it before hand or if you had even texted me BEFORE you did it I would have said yes. I want you to have fun. But its the fact that you texted me after the matter. After YOU were the one who initiated this rule."
Shoot. He said "rule" he is in his HOH mode (then again when isnt he?)
"I know, but it was the heat of the moment and i just thought ONE tiny little shot would be okay. Plus I told you right away. I didnt try to hide it."
"you are right. You didnt try to hide it and that makes me happy but you still did it. We have our rules in place for a reason and to me this rule is very important because you were the one who wanted it. Ofcourse I agreed but that is because we both know what even a tiny bit of alcohol does to you"
"I am sorry. I feel bad and you can do whatever you want to me as punishment. I wont fight you. I feel really guilty" I was still looking down, but here he put his hand under my chin and raised my head so I would look at him"
"You are right, this is grounds for punishment. and we will do just that. I know it was only a shot but a rule is a rule. Thank you for being honest to me though, that was good honey. Right now I want you to go to bed, its late and alot has been going on so I can only imagine how drained you are. I will worry about your punishment tomorrow."
"Can I shower before bed please?"
"Ofcourse honey. Go shower and I will be in the room waiting."
"I thought you weren't going to spank me tonight?"
He chuckled. "I'm not, dont worry."

I checked on baby, showered, checked on baby, and went to the bed where he was laying. I layed down beside him and he kissed me and then got up and tucked me in. He had somethings to do so he went and did them. I layed there for a while. I felt really bad. Eventually I fell asleep and awoke in the morning to the baby laughing. We started our day and it was a good day, it was sunday so it was a quiet and uneventful day for the most part. Eventually night time came along. I had just finished putting baby to sleep and I went to the living room. J was sitting on the couch and was watching a show but when he saw me he shut it off. He told me to come sit beside him. He wasted no time and started about the night before. He ensured me that he loves me very much but he wants to make this really count because I was the one who came up with the rule. (what was I thinking!?)
After he talked he dragged me over his knee and spanked with his hand. After an eternity he got ME to lower my pants. then he did the wooden spoon on my panties and then eventually the paddle bare. He lectured the whole time. Honestly the lecture was the worst part. Afterwards it felt so good to KNOW I ws forgiven and that the slate was clean. I was happy that he took me in hand and as much as my bottom was hurting I felt so loved as he held me in his big strong arms.
About 45 minutes later I was being woken up. I had fallen asleep on him with him holding me. We went and checked on our daughter and went to bed. That night I fell asleep sore, but a whole lot easier than the night before because my guilt was gone.

So there is my weekend, the event I promised in my last post. Yes I know I probally have alot of you out there thinking this is dumb because a shot of alcohol is small but to us its about the principal of it.

Happy Holidays to everyone reading this. Things are real busy with life but I will try to post again before Christmas. So in other words I will try to get in trouble so I have something to post about. <-- That was a joke. I do not intentionally get in trouble lol

Melly ♥

 

 

Just checking In

Hello everyone!

Just thought I would make a post because it has been a few days. We are moving in 2 weeks so between preparing for that and the holidays right around the corner (literally!!), it would be an understatement to say that I have been busy. DD wise things are going smooth, I mean J has never really had huge issues with consistency ("lucky" me). He is fair and loving but man does that Man have a stern side. So yes  I have been in trouble since I last posted. I broke a major rule. And when I say major I mean it was pretty big. J takes this very serious because it is a rule that yours truly thought up, a rule that I know would be a benefit to us. Well mainly me, but him as well. Because I created it, J is especially strict with this one. What I did would be a long post and I oonly have a few minutes to be on here right now, but I PROMISE I will post it in the next 2 days. So stay tuned ;)

For now I have to go. J needs my help with some things and then I am going to head to bed because today was long and busy.
Ha. Today when I was packing somethings I found a bamboo stick that J hadnt seen in a long time. I thought "hmmm, he has done without it this long so why not longer?" I was just about to put it in the bag of stuff we are throwing out when J entered the room. Darn. Guess he's keeeping that one.

Well hope you all aare doing well, and remember to take a few minutes for yourselves. This is a hectic time of year and it can be very stressful. Take a moment for yourself and breathe. (J would tell me to take my own advice on tjis one! lol)

Melly <3

Inside my DD closet

I'm happy inside my closet. I really am. This cozy closet Hubs and I have set up for ourself is very comforting. More and more lately though I find myself wishing I knew another couple in person who practice domestic discipline. I love that I have created this blog and I find comfort reading blogs from others but I really want to SEE a another DD couple in PERSON. I know they exist. Often when I am out I look at other couples and wonder if they have the same kind of secret I do. I'll see a woman "bratting" and her husband gives her a look and I wonder if when she gets home she will have to face the same fate I would if that was me. Is there statistics anywhere that show aprox. how many couples practice a healthy Domestic Discipline relationship?
I'm really not good at keeping secrets. I mean the keeping them to myself I can do but I just always just want to tell someone. Its hard. I especially hate it when I hear about friends experiencing problems or just want a bit more happiness in their relationship and I can't tell them about ttwd. I would love to, but again its hard! Its not an easy subject. Sometimes I wish I could just scream to the world about it so everyone knows and I can stop holding it in (that would especially make it easier to explain when I'm grounded lol)
I dont know what I wanted to accomplish with this post. Its just abunch of rambling thoughts that I have had in my head and this blog is all I really have to talk to about ttwd besides my hubby. So thank you readers :) and if anyone has comments to any of my random thoughts, please do share. Thank you all and Happy holidays :)

Melly

Oh and Just a side note, I have managed to stay out of any kind of trouble for 2 whole days now! I'm very proud of myself. I mean NOTHING. No stern looks, no warnings.. I have been a good girl :)

Honey, it's either the seat belt, or MY belt.

Wow. What a tough week it has been. There has been so many good things happening in our life lately, but it seems that for every good thing something bad has to happen aswell. It's been TOUGH. My attitude has got the best of me and there has been spankings and corner time and the works too. Ugh.
Anyways we had just finished shopping and we were about to go home, we got in the car and i didnt put my seatbelt on. This is a regular thing for me, I always forget, J reminds me and thats all. Ha. NOT this time. For whatever reason I was feeling defiant.
"Hey babe, please put your seatbelt on"

"Uhm, NO, I don't feel like it" (scared myself when i said that! couldnt believe it lol)

"Excuse me?"

"Im not putting on my seatbelt. Just drive."

"I am not leaving this parking lot untill you have your seatbelt on. The baby has hers on, I have mine on, shouldnt you put yours on too?"

"uhhhhh... No?"

"(Here my NAME was used, something he doesnt call me unless he is SERIOUS), PUT on your seatbelt. NOW. You know how important it is. What would me and the baby do without you?"
(I hate when he uses my  mother-ness against me like that, he knows how much she means to me, but then again thats why he does it)

I felt bad, I just wanted to listen and do it but I "had" to stick to my guns. I had to be stubborn. "

"NO!!"

"(My name here), last chance, the seatbelt, or MY belt when we get home. you choose.!"

I looked at him and the look on his face was so serious. My, if looks could kill.
Finally I gave in. Those words, that face. Scary.

"Yes Sir"

Yep. I got spanked when we got home. But the spanking was for attitude and being defiant. And it wasn't with his belt :) LOL

Defining our roles

Telling someone that you are in a DD relationship is hard forsure. Explaining it can be even harder. When you finally do tell someone the reaction you get varies. For me the thing I hate the most is when people assume that because J has the title of the head of the house it means he just sits around all day and bosses me around, I wait on him hand and foot and he gets off easy. That is sooo not the case. Being in this type of relationship doesnt mean I am his "slave" (although that can be fun too hehe ;) ). We are equals when it comes to family responsibilites. He works hard for his family and I take care of our child and home when he is doing that. When he is around, "chores" are pretty much split 50/50. I am better at shopping and it gives me a break to get out of the house and do something I love so I do the shopping.I am a genius with numbers so I also do the budgeting. He is the better cook so he does most of the cooking. I do most of the lighter house work and he does the bigger stuff that I can't do because I have scoliosis. Also because I have a bad back he does alot more than he should. I'm not saying that all DD couples work like this, but again this is what works for US. I think any relationship, DD or other type, its best to find what works for you and just go with that. J is not my top in every aspect of life. He is my top when I do wrong - he is there to correct me.

How we do it with a baby in the house

I have recieved 2 emails asking how me and J manage to involve our relationship with DD when we have a baby at home, so I thought I would make a post to answer those 2 people and any other reader who might be curious.

The answer is: It's tough; but where there is a will there is a way.

First of all, we take full advantage of her sleeping time. Just like any other couple will take advantage of their child napping to spend quality time, as do we. DD is a part of who we are. We have been BLESSED with a content baby (seriously, it scares me just how content and happy she is, and has been since a newborn) who has slept 12 hours straight each night since she was 7 weeks old. So alot of my punishments happen at night when she is asleep.
When she is awake J takes full advantage of "quiet punishments" such as lines, corner time, removing a privlidge or two etc.
He will administer the odd spanking when she is around. Like I said, she is content.. so it is nothing to place her in her crib with some toys, put the baby monitor on and do what needs to be done.
Yes at times it can be tough. But J is very consistent. Once he decides i have earned a punishment its going to happen... eventually anyways :)

HOH made us late... I got spanked.

Yes. You read that right. Funny how ttwd works sometimes hey? We are in the process of trying to find a bigger place and we had an appointment at 1pm to look at a house. Unfortunately at around 12:15 J started throwing up. Luckily we were still able to leave but we left with little time. To me being on time is HUGE. I started freaking out on the way there, just going on a big rant about random things. J told me to smarten up so I just stopped talking all together. Then when asked a question I was snappy. My attitude was just horrible. Before we walked up to the place J warned me that he was already going to deal with my attitude when we got home, and me displaying any attitude at the viewing would be grounds for further punishment. "Whatever" was my response and I walked up to the place, leaving J to walk up on his own instead of together. Oops.

The viewing went GREAT! We were very impressed! For the price, it's definately worth it. I hope we get it. We will find out on Tuesday. How was my behavior? Ha! Thats a different story! I was nice and quiet and asked the odd question but I kept giving J evil glares and when we were filling out forms I kept whispering rude comments to him. I have no clue what went over me! I was plain mean! We left and on the way back J didnt utter a word. It was a cold, quiet drive. When we got back I went and ran up to where the baby was,and thanked his mom for watching her. He talked to her for abit and then she left. J came to where me and our tired, eye rubbing baby were.

"Oh look. Perfect. She's tired. Put her down for a nap and then come to the room"

"Yes Sir"
:(

She fell asleep fast. Darn. I went to the room and J wasn't in there. I layed down and no sooner then my head hitting the pillow J came in and told me to come sit with him at the end of the bed. We talked for a while. Well he talked for the most part, and it was probally only like 5 minutes. He explained to me that he understands I was frusterated and its fine to feel my feelings but its how Choose to deal with them that tends to be a problem.

He told me that it was one thing to be frusterated but I took it too far. I agreed and I apoligized. I told him next time I would not let it get that far. I mean he was getting sick! Not making us late on purpose... oh did I mention we ended up being 5 minutes early? Yeah , I was freaking out for nothing.
"So what do you think we should do just to make sure you don't do it again?"
"I know... you're going to spank me."
"Yes, that's right. I love you baby."

He then hugged me and draped me over his lap. He started with his hand and finished it with a wooden spoon.

It hurt alot. I know I shouldn't have took it that far. I'm happy he guided me back and is there to correct me.. even though it can hurt.

Too YOUNG for DD?

Everynight as I am falling asleep, I always get really deep in thought. I like the end of the day because it gives me time to be alone in my head with my thoughts. Any ways, the other night I was thinking about ttwd and how at first I thought I was the only one like this. I'm really happy to now know that I'm not and that DD is alot more common than I thought. But then I got thinking how alot of other ladies in this life style are older than me. So I got thinking maybe I'm not doing the right thing (crazy right?) I mean I am only 19!! Am I really ready to commit to this lifestyle for the rest of my life? Am I always going to want to answer to someone? Am I always going to want to give up my power to my life partner, especially in this day and age where we are suppose to be seen as equals?

Maybe I don't know what I want, so I should put an end to ttwd before we get toooooo carried away.
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...
Then reality hit me. This is who I am. I am naturally submissive. I should be happy that I found someone who is what I want so early on in life. He completes me. Him, my daughter, and myself are 3 pieces that fit perfectly together just the way we are. I truly believe that with out DD we wouldn't run the same. Our little family isn't perfect, but we are HAPPY. There is so much LOVE.

So to answer my own questions - Yes I am ready for this lifestyle. This life style is what I am. Am I always going to want to answer to someone? Well honestly, probally not ALWAYS but do I believe it is for the best? Yes I do. Am I always going to want to give up my power to J? Yes I will. By me giving up my power to him, by submitting to him, I get a lot more out of it. I get joy, I get strength, I get inner peace, I get true forgivness from him, I get the ability to forgive myself and not have to carry around guilt. I get a chance to start over with a cllean slate when I make a mistake. I am less depressed. I am less anxious. I get taken care of to the ultimate.

I am happy that I was able to come to terms with who I am so young. I am happy that I found J early on. I am happy! :D

Spanking as a relief

As much as I hate punishment spankings, I must admit that they do a world of wonder for me...
It had been a few days since I had anyform of punishment. And its not because I was behaving, it was because of, well, life. Things were just really super busy plus our baby has been teething so any "downtime" we have had has been used to comfort her. I was going through some stuff and I was feeling really poopy. My depression was acting up, I was stressed, I was feeling loads of anxiety. My overall attitude was for lack of better words pissy. On top of it all, I'm not proud of it but I was being testy with J trying to see how far I could push things. So I was feeling guilt because of that. I was able to get sometime all alone and I was thinking about how I could fix things with J and how I could feel better. I really tried to not think about spanking but it seemed like that was the best option. I came to terms with it and I wrote J an email (I couldnt ask him to his face, It was too embarassing lol)
In the email I explained how I was feeling and that I felt a spanking could really help. I also explained to him that if he spanked me I would probally be able to forgive myself for how I treated him. The reply I got from him? - "Babe, I think you're right. I was thinking the same thing and you are past due for a punishment. We will talk when I get home." Great. a "talk". I knew exactly what that meant. But hey, I couldn't complain because I had just asked for that.
Later that night after the baby was in bed and wee had spent sometime together he announced that it was bedtime. he told me to go get ready and meet him in the bedroom in 10 minutes. I did as told and when I got there he was sitting on the edge of the bed. He ordered me to face him and he asked if i knew why I was there. I nodded. "Whats that miss?" he asked. "Yes Sir" I replied. He guided me over his knee and said something about how it was a shame that he needed to punish me because he just wanted to make love. he proceeded tp spank me. I got his hand and his belt. It hurt alot but I have had worse. Something amazing happened though as I was being spanked. I was able to feel a big relief. It was like as I surrendered myself to him all of my built up emotions just flew out of me. I'm so happy that I chose this way of life and that I have a great man. For me, as much as spanking hurts, its very therapeutic at times.
After the spanking j layed down with me. He held me in his strong but gentle arms and told me how ,uch he loved me and explained to me that i dont need to stuff a bunch of negative emotions inside, that no matter how hectic life got he would always have an open ear. i apoligized and said yes, i understand. We fell asleep together.

In the morning the baby surprised me by sleeping in, so I surprised her Daddy by giving him the love making he missed the night before.

Between the punishment and knowing J is there for me and the sex, I am very calm now. Well actually happy. It feels so good being able to be relieved of all those ucky feelings. I love J. DD is the way for us.