I know I am not the only one because I have talked to two other women I know who practice DD and they say their HOH's do it too. I'm talking about THE look. When I am having attitude, being testy, or just straight up being bad Mr.J has this look that he will give me. It's like a " you're in trouble Missy" kind of look and sometimes the look alone is enought to smarten me up! (and if it doesn't work, giving me the look followed by a stern"what melly is short for" and i will probally be set straight lol) We can be out in a public setting or at someones house/have someone over and I will begin acting up.. J shoots me the look and I KNOW I'm either in trouble or I'm almost there.
Over our relationship I have got to know him quite well and he has many many different looks that I know, but I got to say this one probally has the biggest effect on me.
As always, feel free to leave comments!
Melly
Monday 28 November 2011
Friday 25 November 2011
What DD is to me
Domestic discipline is something I consent to. It is not abuse. It is done out of love. DD is NEVER done out of anger. I do not get "beat", I get spanked aswell as other forms of punishments. DD is never used if I and/or my family wont benefit from it. DD is used to lovingly protect me. I am always comforted and reminded how much J loves me after each punishment. Even through the hardest of spankings I feel J's love. I am not in a controoling relationship. Not at all. I do however have rules and guidelines (along with commonsense) and if one of them is broken J acts accordingly, in ways the both of us have agreed upon. Although I do find spankings to be hot.. there is a difference between our sexual spankings and our punishment ones.We have a safety word that I am free to use at any point. I have never had to use the safety word. J knows my limits and would never push me past them. DD is notused to harm. I DO have a say - its not a "J is always right and Melly is always wrong" Kind of thing.
In our DD lifestyle, When I have been good, J is sure to let me know - "honey you were a really good girl today" or "I have noticed you have beenimproving on(whatever it may be) lately, my girl" are phrases I often hear. Also when I have a period of time without getting into too much trouble, I am rewarded. There are many different thigs I get but they are all things I like, things that would make me want to keep up the good behavior.
Feel free to leave comments
Melly
In our DD lifestyle, When I have been good, J is sure to let me know - "honey you were a really good girl today" or "I have noticed you have beenimproving on(whatever it may be) lately, my girl" are phrases I often hear. Also when I have a period of time without getting into too much trouble, I am rewarded. There are many different thigs I get but they are all things I like, things that would make me want to keep up the good behavior.
Feel free to leave comments
Melly
Lesson Learned: Never give a baby chocolate popsicle
- Well! I am pretty sure that I will never give a 7 month old baby some popsicle ever again! Let alone the fact that it made said baby very hyper, J wasn't exactly the happiest about it.
I was eating a popsicle and my daughter was whining and reaching for it. Shes at that age where depending on the food we will let her have TINY tastes of whatever we are eating. I innocently let her have a suck.. well it was really cute and she really enjoyed it so I got carried away and she ate alot more than she should have. Luckily the only effect it had on her was it made her hyper and she stayed up 4 hours later than usual. Oh and she missed a nap. Oops. J and I have this thing where we take turns doing her night schedule and today was his turn so he had to deal with it. The consequence? I have a week where I have to do her night schedule, then once shes in bed I have to report to my Master for a spanking. I can stay up for a little bit after that but I will also have early bedtime for a week. To start things off he gave me a pretty bad spanking with his belt lastnight before I went to bed. The punishment I was suppose to get lastnight ws put onhold for now because the baby wasnt sleeping, and when she finally did he belted my buttom and sent me to bed.
My bum still hurts a little today. Sigh. - Good news though is that the baby woke up at her usual time so I dont think her schedule will be too effected. Hopefull J will let me off a little because of this. I guess I will see. I will let you all know.
Hope everyone is doing well!!
Melly
Thursday 24 November 2011
Where we are now.
Hello everyone. I know I curently have no readers, but the plan is to change that lol.
So in my last entry I talked about how we got into DD. If I went from there to now I would be writing for a very long time. So to save alot of writing/reading I will talk about where we are now. Discipline wise.
Okay so right now I am waiting a punishment, and its going to be pretty bad. I have a really bad habit of swearing. Thats one thing. But I tend to swear AT J when I get angry. Thats a huge nono. A few days ago I got angry, said "f off" and stormed off. We have a 7 month old baby so to punish me right away is sometimes impossible. J instructed me to right 200 lines then later tonight I have to stand in the corner for him and wait then when he says so I have to go to him and lower my pants and place myself over his knee. I then have to count and read the lines and after each one he will spank! I dont know if he's going to use any implements or if my panties will come off.. I have no clue. I think the anticipation is worse than the punishment its self. And he knows I feel this way. Thats why he does it. As he's spanking I will probally get lectured. When hes done he will cuddle me and tell me that he loves me and that he does this because he cares. I will then have to go to bed . I am not looking forward to tonight! This is what I call the "triple L" - Lines, lecture, and a licken.
I may not exactly want whats coming, but I do want him to take control. And I dont like swearing at him. Maybe, well hopefully this helps. Because next time will be worse.
Melly
So in my last entry I talked about how we got into DD. If I went from there to now I would be writing for a very long time. So to save alot of writing/reading I will talk about where we are now. Discipline wise.
Okay so right now I am waiting a punishment, and its going to be pretty bad. I have a really bad habit of swearing. Thats one thing. But I tend to swear AT J when I get angry. Thats a huge nono. A few days ago I got angry, said "f off" and stormed off. We have a 7 month old baby so to punish me right away is sometimes impossible. J instructed me to right 200 lines then later tonight I have to stand in the corner for him and wait then when he says so I have to go to him and lower my pants and place myself over his knee. I then have to count and read the lines and after each one he will spank! I dont know if he's going to use any implements or if my panties will come off.. I have no clue. I think the anticipation is worse than the punishment its self. And he knows I feel this way. Thats why he does it. As he's spanking I will probally get lectured. When hes done he will cuddle me and tell me that he loves me and that he does this because he cares. I will then have to go to bed . I am not looking forward to tonight! This is what I call the "triple L" - Lines, lecture, and a licken.
I may not exactly want whats coming, but I do want him to take control. And I dont like swearing at him. Maybe, well hopefully this helps. Because next time will be worse.
Melly
My first ever post!
Hello all! I am new to the blogging world, but not so new to the DD lifestyle. My partner and i have been practicing this for about a year and a half. Although at 19 I may be considered young to most, I am not dumb! I know what I want in life. Well for the most part anyways.
From a pretty young age I craved to be in a relationship where my partner would take control, but in a loving way. To this day I don't know what made me want this. I had a pretty decent up bringing. My Dad did pass-away when I was twelve, but evem before that I wanted to be controlled.
When I was 17 I was having a hard time with Depression & Anxiety and a pill addiction. (I still suffer from the mental illnesses though, but DD has helped me alot) when I started talking to a guy named, well in my blogging I will call him J. I don't really know how it happened, I guess I just got lucky, I mean we instantly connected. To save a long story, needless to say we fell in love and here two years later here we are. Early on in our relationship somehow it was brought up that he liked being dominant. Perfect - I like being submissive. We brought this into our sex life and we were both happy. Then one day when we had been dating for about 4 months I did something that J had repeatedly stressed to me he did not like. And truth be told even I knew it was dangerous. This time to save us from fighting over it J simply flipped me over (we were laying in bed), took off his belt and proceeded to spank me while lecturing me about it. The first one didnt last too long. Just short and to the point. When he was done I was shocked! I had wanted this type of thing but I couldnt believe it! He then held me and told me how much he loved me and that he wanted me to know that he only did what he did because he cares about me. He explained to me that everytime lately I did something that was harming myself he just wanted to spank me, so he finally did. He told me that because he loves me he couldnt stand to see what I was doing, so for now on he would punish me when I was being quote on quote "bad". He told me that If I didnt want that then I could leave the relationship, I could stop doing things like that, OR I could agree to this. But either way he wasnt going to stand by my harmful ways anymore. So I agreed.
DD has bettered me, and him. It has strengthened our relationship in ways I cant even describe. I am so lucky to have a man like J. He is more than I would ever ask for. He is sweet and kind and gentle. He takes care of me and spoils me. He treats me sooo good. ... and when I get out of line he cares about me enough to lovingly guide me back.
I really do love you J. I am truly Blessed!
Melly
From a pretty young age I craved to be in a relationship where my partner would take control, but in a loving way. To this day I don't know what made me want this. I had a pretty decent up bringing. My Dad did pass-away when I was twelve, but evem before that I wanted to be controlled.
When I was 17 I was having a hard time with Depression & Anxiety and a pill addiction. (I still suffer from the mental illnesses though, but DD has helped me alot) when I started talking to a guy named, well in my blogging I will call him J. I don't really know how it happened, I guess I just got lucky, I mean we instantly connected. To save a long story, needless to say we fell in love and here two years later here we are. Early on in our relationship somehow it was brought up that he liked being dominant. Perfect - I like being submissive. We brought this into our sex life and we were both happy. Then one day when we had been dating for about 4 months I did something that J had repeatedly stressed to me he did not like. And truth be told even I knew it was dangerous. This time to save us from fighting over it J simply flipped me over (we were laying in bed), took off his belt and proceeded to spank me while lecturing me about it. The first one didnt last too long. Just short and to the point. When he was done I was shocked! I had wanted this type of thing but I couldnt believe it! He then held me and told me how much he loved me and that he wanted me to know that he only did what he did because he cares about me. He explained to me that everytime lately I did something that was harming myself he just wanted to spank me, so he finally did. He told me that because he loves me he couldnt stand to see what I was doing, so for now on he would punish me when I was being quote on quote "bad". He told me that If I didnt want that then I could leave the relationship, I could stop doing things like that, OR I could agree to this. But either way he wasnt going to stand by my harmful ways anymore. So I agreed.
DD has bettered me, and him. It has strengthened our relationship in ways I cant even describe. I am so lucky to have a man like J. He is more than I would ever ask for. He is sweet and kind and gentle. He takes care of me and spoils me. He treats me sooo good. ... and when I get out of line he cares about me enough to lovingly guide me back.
I really do love you J. I am truly Blessed!
Melly
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